My Choice

"My choice"  A vogue empowerment video, directed by Homi Adajania in association with Vogue India as a part of their women's empowerment is getting a lot of criticism. It features Deepika Padukone and 98 other women from different social strata with Deepika being the narrator.

All hell broke loose. The most objectionable line being "My choice to have sex before marriage, to have sex outside of marriage, or not to have sex."

"Sex before marriage" As we all know it is a taboo in India. It is against our culture and values. We honor our daughters and sisters and it is our ultimate duty to protect their chastity. We wouldn't even think twice to kill them. We tell our little girls not to talk to strangers, but tell them to sleep with one after marriage. Yeah, and if a girl can have sex before marriage, then it is okay for us to rape her. She has slept with one, she should be okay with sleeping with everybody else, right? We call those kind of women whore, slut, bitch, harlot, and what not. We want virgin brides. That topic for another post.

"Sex outside of marriage." Lot of people jumped the gun, man-woman alike. How dare a woman talk about sex and in all likelihood outside marriage. We are those people who sit on moral high horse all the time. Woman's sexuality is everybody's business here except the woman concerned. In Indian context woman is submissive, docile who only think of sex as a duty that she must provide to her lawfully wedded husband. Remember "sex is for procreation, not for recreation."

"Not to have sex." A choice? Those women are definitely living in the bubble. Hello! Marital rape is legal in India. The criminal law (Amendment) Act, 2013 states "Sexual intercourse or sexual acts by a man with his own wife, the wife not being under fifteen years of age, is not rape."  Although I wonder legal age for woman to get married is 18 in India, then how this amendment holds good?

Woman can't lust. Woman can't desire. Woman can't enjoy. Woman can't fantasize.

This is what majority of misogynist, sexist, and patriarchal Indians think.

Let me share my two cents here. I find "My choice" a hell of a video. It just makes plain statement that woman has a choice. I am only talking about the most infamous line here. Sex before marriage, Yes. Not to have sex, Yes. Sex outside of marriage, personally no. But again shouldn't it between the couple involved. They say this choice has consequence. Adultery is not a criminal offence, though could have legal and emotional ramifications like divorce and mental trauma. The video did not endorse sex outside of marriage in anyway.

For that slandering Deepika Padukone personally is outrageous. Some morons even declared taking dowry, murdering, acid attacking is their choice. And some men went on mocking they will rape woman because it's their choice. I pity you. You claim to be grown up and doesn't know the difference between consent and choice. Those are called criminal offence you imbecile, dim-witted, idiots.  

Yes, woman has a choice. If that choice is a mistake, so be it. I don't understand why anybody should have problem with it. Woman is not born to serve other gender. What she does with her body, what she wears, what she doesn't wear, when to get married, not to get married, when to have kid, not to have is nobody's business, but 

hers. Yes, woman has a choice and rightfully so.

Here is another video in response to "My choice".

I laughed my ass off.  Seriously?  This is the best you could come up with?